Forlovet men ikke bo sammen?

[AnonymBruker]

Er det noen her som er forlovet men som ikke bor sammen pga særkullsbarn? Men som har planer om det når barna har flyttet ut? 

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[AnonymBruker]

Vi startet med avstandsforhold (6 timer unna hverandre), så flyttet vi sammen i "min by", så forlovelse, så giftemål, så kjente han etter hvert på at han mistrivdes i "min by" så han flyttet tilbake der han kom fra. Da måtte vi ha avstandsforhold noen år pga barn og skole, og så flyttet vi sammen igjen i hans by noen år senere. Jeg trives heldigvis veldig godt der. 

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[samdly]

Hi! I came across your post and found your story really interesting.

I’m a French journalism student currently in Oslo, working with two other students on a short documentary about the different ways couples in Norway build a life together. We’re particularly interested in the idea that being committed to someone doesn’t necessarily mean following the traditional path of moving in together and organizing your whole life around one shared home.

Your experience caught my attention because you seem to have gone through several different forms of living as a couple — long-distance, living together, then living apart again because of your children and school, while remaining committed to each other.

I was wondering if you would be open to talking a little more about your experience. I’d especially like to understand whether you feel this way of organizing your relationship says something about how relationships or family life can work in Norway, or if it is simply what worked for you and your family.

We’re also looking for people who might be interested in being interviewed for the documentary, but there is absolutely no commitment at this stage. I’d be happy to simply have a chat first, by message, phone or over coffee, and explain the project.

Here my email : [email protected]

[samdly]

AnonymBruker skrev (På 8/17/2026 den 10:11 AM):

We started out as a long-distance relationship (6 hours away from each other), then we moved together in "my city", then got engaged, then got married, then he eventually realized he didn't like "my city" so he moved back to where he came from. Then we had to have a long-distance relationship for a few years because of the kids and school, and then we moved back together in his city a few years later. Luckily, I really enjoy it there. 

Anonymous code: 9f1c8...dc5

Hi! I came across your post and found your story really interesting.

I'm a French journalism student currently in Oslo, working with two other students on a short documentary about the different ways couples in Norway build a life together. We're particularly interested in the idea that being committed to someone doesn't necessarily mean following the traditional path of moving in together and organizing your whole life around one shared home.

Your experience caught my attention because you seem to have gone through several different forms of living as a couple — long-distance, living together, then living apart again because of your children and school, while remaining committed to each other.

I was wondering if you would be open to talking a little more about your experience. I'd especially like to understand whether you feel this way of organizing your relationship says something about how relationships or family life can work in Norway, or if it is simply what worked for you and your family.

We're also looking for people who might be interested in being interviewed for the documentary, but there is absolutely no commitment at this stage. I'd be happy to simply have a chat first, by message, phone or over coffee, and explain the project.

Here my email :  [email protected]

[AnonymBruker]

AnonymBruker skrev (På 16.8.2026 den 21.56):

Er det noen her som er forlovet men som ikke bor sammen pga særkullsbarn? Men som har planer om det når barna har flyttet ut? 

Anonymkode: b180c...ba9

Hvorfor må man forlove seg før man har bodd sammen? Er ikke det dumt?

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[AnonymBruker]

AnonymBruker skrev (På 16.8.2026 den 21.56):

Er det noen her som er forlovet men som ikke bor sammen pga særkullsbarn? Men som har planer om det når barna har flyttet ut? 

Anonymkode: b180c...ba9

Ja, vi gjorde det slik! Og flyttet sammen et års tid etter forlovelsen. Og er fortsatt sammen, dette planla vi godt sammen ❤️ blåser i hva andre mener om rekkefølgen vår. 

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