First BJ ended horribly

[AnonymBruker]

So I'm 31 and have been on disability for 8 years, I finally managed to find a woman that liked me and I think I have ruined it. Got my first blowjob yesterday, and my prostatitis made it hurt so badly after I came that she ended up having to have to call an ambulance. She went with me to the hospital and waited until I had gotten some painkillers and told her I was sorry, and she said she would call me later. Got a text that said she was hoping I was feeling better and that we should probably talk about it, so she knows what she is dealing with. But honestly I am so scared about what she will say cause I really like her and I thought we where still at the kissing stage but she was the one that started to take her shirt off. Hadn't gotten the chance to talk to her about it since it was only our second date even though we have been hanging out, on and off for a few weeks now. Didn't want to scare her off, she knew I was obviously sick since I'm not working but she didn't know exactly what since it's not something you want to bring up on a first date. 

If sex is important to her I am willing to step up and pleasure her in other ways, but if penetration is something she needs regularly to have a meaningful sexlife, I don't know if I will ever be able to do that. I'd be willing to try anything, I just don't want to lose her, but I don't know if I will be able to give her the the type of sexlife she wants.

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[AnonymBruker]

But why? 

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[AnonymBruker]

A lot of women don't need penetration in their sex life. After all, only like 20 % of women are even able to get an orgasm from penetration alone.  A LOT of women lose their need for sex after a few years in a relationship. I would be more than happy in a sexless relationship but ofc I have to have sex to please my hubby, as most men have a lot stronger sex drive than women. I am sure if you are open with your problem when you get serious in your dating, you will find a girfriend. It would be a lot harder if you were a woman as most men demands sex and wouldn't like having to nurse a sick partner.

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[Aalo]

3 minutter siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

I have to have sex to please my hubby, as most men have a lot stronger sex drive than women.

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Most men doesnt have a lot stronger sex drive then women. Thats a myth. Its an individual differences more then gender differences.

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Akkurat nå, Aalo skrev:

Most men doesnt have a lot stronger sex drive then women. Thats a myth. Its an individual differences more then gender differences.

I doubt that. Most men say they want more sex in their relationship whilst a lot of women say they could live happily without sex om their relationships. I know there's a lot sex-hungry girls in the sexual forum but they don't represent the average woman, to say it mildly. 

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[Aalo]

13 minutter siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

I doubt that. Most men say they want more sex in their relationship whilst a lot of women say they could live happily without sex om their relationships. I know there's a lot sex-hungry girls in the sexual forum but they don't represent the average woman, to say it mildly. 

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Orker ikke skrive engelsk. Du skriver at de fleste menn har en sterkere drift enn kvinner. Det er feil og er en misforstått oppfatning som er ødeleggende for mange menn som er i et forhold med kvinner som har mer lyst enn dem selv.

Det riktige er at det er oftere at mannen har sterkere seksualdrift enn kvinnen, men at dette langt i fra gjelder menn flest. Som er grunnen til at dette bør sees på individnivå heller enn å gjøre det til et spørsmål om kjønn.