English guy seeks advice

[AnonymBruker]

I'm an English guy who has been caught under the spell of a Norwegian woman. We have known each other for a long while and spent many hours putting the world to rights while chatting over the internet. A few months back i broke up with a long-time girlfriend and I’ve found myself wanting to spend more and more time chatting and getting to know this woman. We’ve never met, vid chat and lots of text chat has so far been the extent of our relationship.

Any advice on how to take this to the next level? She says she wants to meet but is very vague about putting any time scale on things. Am i being taken for a ride? Anyone else got experience with English\Norwegian dating?

Hope its ok posting here. And apologies to the Norwegian men for trying to steel your women, but come on, after the Vikings I thing you owe us one.

[Bloodflowers]

Hello, there!

Well, I don't know that much about norwegian/english dating, but hope that I can bring some advice to the table anyways

Maybe she's a little intimminated by meeting you. Have you spoke together on the phone? Maybe she's unsure about speeking english with you? I don't know, but I do know, that I would be a little freaked out by that

But then again, if you really like somebody it shouldn't be a probelm.

Maybe you could purpose a casual meeting to begin with, like in a café at daytime, so things don't start so serious? Just like a friendly meeting, and then take it from there?

You may also consider the hard fact, that she may not be that into you. I don't want to dissapoint you or anything, but that may be the reason why she is putting it off.

I hope that you guys figure it out, and sorry if my english isn't perfect, but I guess you caught the contecst

[Steinar40]

Any advice on how to take this to the next level? She says she wants to meet but is very vague about putting any time scale on things. Am i being taken for a ride? Anyone else got experience with English\Norwegian dating?

Long distance dating is never uncomplicated. Not even inside Norway.

Somebody has to move eventually, and if this is not what either of you really want to do, then I would strongly recommend against going any further.

And this has nothing to do with the Vikings; except that they did move, or just robbed your women with them back home hehe

[zubimaru]

Heya!

I've been with a guy from the UK, whom I met via the online world. We never lived together, but had a long-distance relationship with visits and so on. We talked for about 6 months before we met the first time.

I'd suggest you meet up, to see if you have the same connection irl, as you do via web. Things arent always as they seem.

And like Steinar40 said, if either of you don't want to move (which can seem like a big step at the time - but you should think ahead, seeing as you might get more involved in each other), just let it go.

She seems vague, maybe she wants more time? Maybe she aint taking this as "serious" as you are?

[Morea]

I have never met anyone (or chatted) via the internet, but my boyfriend of five years (soon husband) is English. So i know the dating bit!

For me it would be a big step to meet someone that I hadn't met in real life. And I would probably have to build up a considerable amount of guts. It might be like that for her as well. And are you living in the UK or in Norway?? To invite someone over to visit, or go to the UK, would be another great scary step for me if I had never met the guy on safe turf first. But I guess other people are braver than me in that regard.

When it comes to the English/Norwegian thing, the cultural differences are usually few but fun if you otherwise have a background that is not too different (that can be the case in same nationality relationships as well I guess). Most Norwegians can communicate ok in English, so that is rarely a problem. My boyfriend is maybe a bit better than me in expressing how he feels about me in words. The love word is not easy to say in Norwegian, for a lot of people at least. But he has learnt to understand that I love him even if I don't express it as openly as he does.

Meeting each other's families has also been fun in that we see the differences in culture a bit more clearly. That goes for some food traditions, holidays, and not least polite phrases such as please, thank you etc. We DO say it you see, but maybe more in intonation than in words! He loves the outdorsy lifestyle thank God, since I am a stereotypical Norwegian in that sense.

The most fascinating thing for me is the obsession with ironing EVERYTHING, and tidying the bed so hard you can flick a coin on it like in the army. I call it the "anti-masturbation sheet for young boys", and is probably something from Victorian times. That is my theory anyway.

I'm diverging as usual, sorry, but if you have been chatting for a long time, then I understand your wish to meet. You guys can't thread the waters forever if one or both of you are getting feelings. Go for it an give her a proposal for time and place, and then you will get a yes (hopefully) or a no. At least then you will know!!! Good luck!

[AnonymBruker]

Hi.

I've been in a relationship with a British girl for almost three years, so I guess that makes me well bewandered in the field of Norwegian/British dating. But I didn't meet her online, I met her over there in real life as I was there for a year myself, then I had to move back home, so we had about 5-6 months with physical proximity back there before the distance part of our relationship started after my return home.The part of the relationship when we were close was the best, and so was the start of the distance bit. But we gradually realized that we were going in different directions and in general a gradual decay of our relationship, not to mention that no one wanted to compromise by moving to a different country. So ultimately we split up.

While not dwelling more on my story, I'd say the two of you have a chance, but like in every distance relationship, both of you have to show commitment. IMHO, half hearted attempts of a long distance relationship won't work, they require even more work than a "normal" relationship.

I'm not saying this to put you down or anything, but I believe everyone should be realistic when involving themselves in a distance relationship. In this case you'll have to meet her first, I'd say for a couple of times before anyone of you can decide if this is something worthwhile pursuing or not, and that's probably why she's a bit hesitant in the first place. So meet up and find out, and then decide As for a first meeting my advice would be not to set expectations too high to avoid too much disappointment. This doesn't mean you shouldn't hope for nothing, but again, it's a good thing to be realistic and the opportunity for surprise is nicer than an opportunity for disappointment.

About yous stealing our women, who has told you we've stopped checking out your birds? I guess this settles it then!

[kissmequick]

Maybe she is worried about becoming a rebound?

[hjertesukka]

And apologies to the Norwegian men for trying to steel your women, but come on, after the Vikings I thing you owe us one.

Hillarious!

May be she wants YOU to take the initiativ for a meeting?

[AnonymBruker]

A friend of mine met a guy from USA online. He came to see her and never went back home, they moved in together and are engaged now. You never know what will happen