What to do?

[AnonymBruker]

I have absolutely no idea what to do.. I found a folder on my boy freinds network with links to 4 "teen porn"-sites. I checked them out just to see what it was and it was children!! None of them was a day over fourteen.. This disgusts me so much and I'm actually frightened.

Some of the pics were of really small girls with blood running down their legs....!

I would like to ask him why he watches it, but we've had discussions like that before (not about this serious things though) and they all end up the same, without any conclusions. (And I am really scared about the answer..)

What would you have done?? Could this be something else? He has got plenty of "legal" porn on his computer, and this was just links that he had written down in a document. Does it have to mean that he actually enjoys it, or even watches it?

The document was named "x" and I renamed it "pedo".. Should I change it back? I thought that if he notices I've renamed it, maybe he'll explain it to me?

I just feel like I'm going to throw up..

He is 24 by the way.

You can answer in norweigan, I understand it.

[LetThemEatCake]

Det behöver ju inte betyda någonting, även om det helt klart är obehagligt och oroväckande. I och med att det bara är länkar och porren han har på datorn är laglig så tyder ju det på att han inte tittar på det lika mycket/inte tittar på det alls jämfört med vanlig porr. Hade bilderna/videorna legat på datorn hade det varit en annan sak!

Är det någon som vet hur man anmäler sådana hemsidor? Man kan väl inte gå till norsk/svensk polis med en barnporrsida från USA? Jag har också snubblat över sådana sidor och det förbluffar mig hur många som tänder på det! Det är helt jävla sjukt.

[AnonymBruker]

hmm ja dette er ikke lett, hvis han har en egen mappe med den type bilder og linker til slike sider, så ville jeg og blitt bekymret.

Ja du bør absolutt spørre han om hva den mappen gjør der og hvorfor han har linker til slike bilder. en ting er når de er så unge, men når de har blod på seg i tilegg, da er det noe som ikke stemmer.

Siden du er i lag med han, så regner jeg med du har følelser for han, og derfor kan dette bli ekstra vannskelig. men du bør følge med aktiviteten hannes på den mappen, (sjekke logg om hvor ofte han er inne og ser osv) og vurdere og gå til politiet, det er ulovelig å se på slike bilder og veien fra å se til å gjøre noe mer, er desverre altfor kort.

[Betty2]

Du kan tipse politiet om slike nett sider, men hvis du vet om personer som ser på barneporno så kan du i hvertfall tipse og kanskje anmelde den gjeldene personen. Norsk politi har et godt sammarbeid på verdensbasis når det gjelder håndtering barnepornosaker.

enig det er sykt at noen tenner på små barn. blir kvalm hver gang jeg leser om en pedofil sak.

Endret 9. oktober 2010 av Betty2

[AnonymBruker]

There was only one or two (of like 200) that contained blood.. Some of the girls looks "ok", maybe it's them he's watching? Maybe it really is the actual teenage girls he looks at? Not all the websites were as bad..

I can't check how many times he's been there since he don't keep the history in his web reader. This document has been here since july this year (I saw it then, but didn't visit the addresses) and it haven't changed since he created it. Maybe he's forgotten it exists? Maybe he made the document to check the addresses later?

I can't go to the police with a document that has 4 addresses on it! That is no evidence. Evidence would be if he saves the pictures on the computer. (I almost want him to do so, so that I can get an answer).

If this really is something that turns him on, shouldn't he have a bunch of similar stuff on his computer? He already has got loads of porn, and I've went through all the folders (to see if he has got any of this shit) and there isn't even one photo that is questionable.

What should I do with the name of the folder by the way? I don't really want him to know that I've looked throw his network (even though I'm aloud to) until I've decided how to handle it. Should I change the name back to "x" or can it be a good thing that I've named it "pedo"?

Thank you so much for answering!

[Gjest Bianca28]

[fruBeist]

I can't go to the police with a document that has 4 addresses on it! That is no evidence. Evidence would be if he saves the pictures on the computer. (I almost want him to do so, so that I can get an answer).

Disse linkene er ikke noe bevis på at kjæresten din ser på slikt, men det er bevis på at disse sidene eksisterer. Å rapportere disse til politiet vil mest sannsynlig være med på å få sidene sletta, og kanskje få bakmenn av disse mer fram i lyset. Du kan helt sikkert rapportere disse linkene anonymt til politiet. Og ta en prat med kjæresten din. Spør om hvorfor han har spart på linkene, og si du har anonymt tipsa politiet om de.

Om i verste fall han tenner på slikt, så kan en grunn til at han ikke har slikt materiale lasta ned til pc være rett og slett fordi det er ulovlig. Han føler det kanskje tryggere å se via en link, en nedlasta og lagra materiale.

Lykke til!

[AnonymBruker]

I did it! I asked him about it and he was as chocked as me. He seemed to have no idea what was actually on the websites. He actually cried when he realised what it was.. I told him I'm going to report the sites to the police and he said that I really should.

I think I just wanted him to confirm the fact that he's not into that stuff, and I believe him. I never thought that about him and his reaction when I asked indicates that he's telling the truth. We've been together for many years now and I've developed a 6 sense for when he's lying, hehe. And this time I'm sensing he's telling the truth.

The discovery was really chocking, but fortunately it didn't last long. Now I just feel terrible about the things I've seen! The images just don't want to get out of my hed. The pictures made me think even more, and I'm having big trouble understanding why and how this could be made! Older men jumping 9-year old girls!?? And some of them even look happy...? I just want to throw up.. Where are their parents? Is it their own parents doing this? It's a sick f*cked up world we're living in and I just feel so helpless.

Now I feel like I have to look up every similar site and report them all to the police, because apparently they are not that hard to find. I feel bad about the police officers who have to see so horrible things, investigating the photos when estimating the ages of the girls. The worst part is probably the fruitless chase of both victims and perpetrator. It is like a never ending witch hunt!

[AnonymBruker]

Oppspinn fra ende til annen. Det eksisterer ikke websider med barneporno som er lett å oppsøke. Det du antaglivis har sett er teenage sites.

[AnonymBruker]

Oppspinn fra ende til annen. Det eksisterer ikke websider med barneporno som er lett å oppsøke. Det du antaglivis har sett er teenage sites.

I really hate it when someone else is trying to tell me what I've seen, especially when it's about something this serious!

Of course they call it teenage sites! Why would they call it "children pornography site" when it's illegal?? Why do you think it is so hard to find the sites? If they call it by it's right name they would get caught right away. I can assure you there were children on these so called "teenage sites".

There were screaming and crying little girls getting raped by older men and there were blood and damaged privates. I've reported these sites to the police and I really, really hope that you would do the same even if the headline says it's teenagers..! You know, not everything on the internet is true and honest, especially not the illegal stuff. Plenty of the so called teenage sites contains material with underaged girls and boys. I don't think there are that many who wants to display the fact that the site is really profiled for pedofiles.

Think again, please!

[Gjest caramiacaramella]

Ummm...he had written down the addresses for these sites in a document, yet he had no idea what they were? Then why would he write the addresses down? Did you ask him about that? It sounds kinda fishy to me that he would create a document and take the time to write down addresses of sites he never visited.

[AnonymBruker]

I think you should think again. Ive surfed the web for porn since the beginning of internet, and ive never come across child porn. What you have seen is teen sex. People that exchange child porn do it through secret closed groups.

[AnonymBruker]

Ummm...he had written down the addresses for these sites in a document, yet he had no idea what they were? Then why would he write the addresses down? Did you ask him about that? It sounds kinda fishy to me that he would create a document and take the time to write down addresses of sites he never visited.

It was probably just a note. He has notes with addresses to other sites to, sites that he hasn't visited yet. He doesn't have that much time to watch porn so it's very likely that he written them down just to check them out later. But of course it's fishy.. Or else I wouldn't have panicked. But I have to trust him until something says otherwise. I can't go around and wonder without any evidence. As long as he tells me he's not into that stuff and as long as I don't find anything weird, the best thing is simply just to leave it behind.

There were addresses to a couple of legal sites in the note to, that he hasn't checked out either. The chances that he searched for "teen porn" at Google and saved a few addresses for later is actually quite believable.

I do the same thing quite often actually. Not only with porn, but with other stuff too. I write down addresses that seems interesting and I haven't had the time to visit half of them yet!

I've reported the sites to the police now and I will settle with that for now! A relationship is built on trust and I can only assume that he is honest with me.

Thank you so much, everybody!

[AnonymBruker]

I think you should think again. Ive surfed the web for porn since the beginning of internet, and ive never come across child porn. What you have seen is teen sex. People that exchange child porn do it through secret closed groups.

A girl of fourteen is a child in the eyes of the law. I am not interested in your porno habits.

[Gjest Bianca28]

TS dump han pedofile idioten av en kjæreste du har

[Gjest Klaus]

Jeg skal nå tipse Politiet om dette, slik at de kan kontakte Kvinneguiden for å få tak i din IP adresse for å så arrestere typen din. Han fortjener å bli skutt i hodet.

[AnonymBruker]

Jeg skal nå tipse Politiet om dette, slik at de kan kontakte Kvinneguiden for å få tak i din IP adresse for å så arrestere typen din. Han fortjener å bli skutt i hodet.

Eh.. Thanks for the warning?

First of all - I really don't think that the shit turns him on.

Second of all - it's not illegal to be a pedophile unless you practise it. Even if he accidentally or on purpose wrote down these websites there is no evidence to press charges against him. He has nothing illegal on his computer and he immediately erased the note with the addresses. No one even knows if he ever saw the pages. And for that matter someone else could have saved the addresses on his computer. Many people (both friends and family) have access to it and borrow it from time to time.

But you tip the police, I'd rather see that people do one thing to much or one thing to less. But next time - don't warn the person first. If you warn them they will, of course, delete anything that can be used against them later.

It is illegal to share child porn, but he hasn't shared it and he says that he hasn't even seen the websites, there for he hasn't done anything illegal, according to himself.

And about death punishes - it is not your call, and I am really glad it isn't. Anyone can do a mistake and to be killed for it (or threatened to be killed) is not fare. Everyone deserves a chance of a fare trial before convicted.

I've already tipped the police about the websites and I think it is really unnecessary to tip them about my boyfriend since I really don't think he is a criminal. I'd rather see that they focus on the real criminals who actually does something illegal..

[Gjest Bianca28]

Eh.. Thanks for the warning?

First of all - I really don't think that the shit turns him on.

Second of all - it's not illegal to be a pedophile unless you practise it. Even if he accidentally or on purpose wrote down these websites there is no evidence to press charges against him. He has nothing illegal on his computer and he immediately erased the note with the addresses. No one even knows if he ever saw the pages. And for that matter someone else could have saved the addresses on his computer. Many people (both friends and family) have access to it and borrow it from time to time.

But you tip the police, I'd rather see that people do one thing to much or one thing to less. But next time - don't warn the person first. If you warn them they will, of course, delete anything that can be used against them later.

It is illegal to share child porn, but he hasn't shared it and he says that he hasn't even seen the websites, there for he hasn't done anything illegal, according to himself.

And about death punishes - it is not your call, and I am really glad it isn't. Anyone can do a mistake and to be killed for it (or threatened to be killed) is not fare. Everyone deserves a chance of a fare trial before convicted.

I've already tipped the police about the websites and I think it is really unnecessary to tip them about my boyfriend since I really don't think he is a criminal. I'd rather see that they focus on the real criminals who actually does something illegal..

Why does he have links to those websites if he hasnt looked at the links? And why do u still wanna be with him if he actually likes this stuff?

[AnonymBruker]

Why does he have links to those websites if he hasnt looked at the links? And why do u still wanna be with him if he actually likes this stuff?

Of course I don't want to be with someone who's turned on by children! I told him that if it turns out he likes it, he's out of here, and I mean it. If I find out anything that points him out as a criminal, there is no doubt I will report him to the police.

I didn't look at twice the web pages at first so it is possible that I am wrong. I've talked to a friend about these kind of things now and apparently it is popular to use fake blood to simulate "defloration".. I googled "teen porn" and in my eyes everyone looks like they are twelve year old and they looked a lot like the pages my boyfriend saved, so it is possible that the girls on the sites are actually over fifteen..

I am sorry, you who told me it was probably teen porn. I've calmed down now and I am more open for other solutions, and the fact that it is just an ordinary teen site is more likely. There were grown-ups on the sites to, no matter what I wrote in the first message.

In the first message I had only opened the sites ones and I acted in panic. I have absolutely no idea about the ages on the site and I only assumed that the worst thing had happened!

Now I've opened the sites again and I've clicked on some of the pictures and they look much older (they all have pubic hair and breasts for example) on the other pictures!

I don't really watch porn myself so I am really not that used to how it actually works in the porno industry. Just the fact that women actually dresses up like little girls makes me sick..

Thank you everyone for your words! Please read this last message carefully, because this is the only message I've written while calm and thinking clearly.

[AnonymBruker]

Bianca:

The answer to your first question is written in one of the other answeres. It simply could be a note. (I do it all the time)