Parenting. Honest post

[AnonymBruker]

I had a moment with my 3 year old this morning. Hes not so great at getting dressed himself, and can always avoid it or ask for help, when i know he most sertently can get dressed on his own and maybe is a bit lazy. I got angry. Frustrated because we were running out of time, but i also just wanted to let him do it and not give in.. i cant always help him. So this combination lead to yelling, screaming and also a bit draggin him. Yes i knew it was horrible as i let my anger get to me, and he was crying so much. I even also said things like your not nice, your a baby and not big boy. Then i brushed his teeeth as he was crying and placed him on the couch, I also had to dress him myself. I placed him on the couch and i said stay here. I noticed he was quite..not a sound, not a word. He was sitting there just in tears and staring into the air. I looked at how sad he was and i began crying. What kind of person or mom am i who does this to a 3 year old. Kindergarden teacher has also commented on how he isnt getting dressed himself, so as a mom i just want him to do good. I went to him, i sat on my knees.. looked into his eyes as my tears were running and i wispered im sorry for being angry at you. You dont deserve this, and you are smart, kind and i love you so much. I get a bit frustrated but i know its not easy for you. He was just looking into my eyes and i could see that he understood. I said sorry and gave him a kiss and hug. He also kissed me.

 

sometimes I feel like I’m failing as a mom

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[AnonymBruker]

Feeling frustrated or overwhelmed as a parent is completely normal—almost all of us have moments like this. What matters is that you noticed what happened and took steps to make it right, like apologizing and connecting with your son. That shows a lot of love and awareness. That said, pulling him, yelling, or saying hurtful things isn’t safe for him, and it’s important to get support to help manage these feelings. Talking to a counselor, therapist, or joining a parenting support group, COS.

You’re not a “bad mom” for having a tough moment. Admitting it and working to repair things is exactly what a caring parent does. 

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[AnonymBruker]

Thanks 

yes it’s absolutely not ok to say those things and I’m very aware

i think I said it to see if he would then put the clothes on him.. that’s not something I say often but again I shouldn’t have said those things to begin with 

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[AnonymBruker]

Our 3 year old doesn’t dress himself. I have never though about it as a problem. And still don’t. Let them train at times, but not when you are stressed in the morning and running out of time. I would apologize to him if it happens next time. «Mom got angry, I’m sorry». 

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