Divorce or should stay

[Sara200]

I found out my husband is talking to his ex-girlfriend today. I have found several times in my life that he was talking to other girls. We had problems together before and I think the best solution for us is to separate. I moved away from him once, but shortly after we got back together it was something he wanted. I didn't have the heart to leave him when he was down. One of the reasons was that he was also talking to other girls. I thought he did that because we had a few problems in our life at the that time.

Since then, I have tried everything in my power to create a good life for us even I am not perfect too. We rarely argue now and we are good friends. I am almost 40 years old, and I am getting help to get pregnant. I have tried for many years.

I am in the middle of assisted reproduction now and I strongly believe that I'm going to get pregnant .But the big problem is I can't trust him anymore. I have never been able to trust him, when he lies and puts the blame on me as soon as he talks to other girls.

I don't really know if I'll stay in that life because I'm afraid to live alone. I also don't quite understand why he doesn't want to divorce, but at the same time always wants to talk to other girls. He has dated before but does not want to get divorce.

I have no family or friends so I am uncertain about my whole life now.

[AnonymBruker]

Good4u.

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[Gjest BasicBlondie]

Get a divorce, it's so much better than living with a cheating man!❤
I understand that living alone is scary, but you can do it! It's gonna be hard at the beginning but it will get better with time.

[AnonymBruker]

Honestly from a woman to woman I would recommend to divorce his unloyal ass! I was with a similar man and gave him new chances since he promised so "sincere" (only good acting) that he loved me and would never do anything like it again. Well he did but he only found better ways to hide it and in the end it wasnt even the unloyalty and cheating that hurt the most but how emotionally and mentally damaged I became by sensing something was wrong but couldnt find the evidence, i got super paranoid and controlling and when I tried to speak to him about how much the cheating damaged our relationship and me he was just like "get over it, its in the past, now you are the one destroying our relationship!". So I was walking around having all this hurtful feelings but noone to understand them or sympathize with me, he didnt wanted to take responsibility and I got gaslighted thinking I was in fault to struggle to heal and trust him. All along while I was suffering and working really hard with my emotions to try to build up the trust, it came to light one day more than a year later (a year of pure suffering and mistrust I had to cope with inside myself alone) I found out he was still texting other women and probably meeting them too. In the end I wasnt as much damaged by the cheating, but by staying in a relationship with someone I didnt trust. Even if he never cheated again the relationship was ruined anyway. It not worth fighting for something thats already broken by his actions, his choice, his lack of morals and lack of respect for the relationship and you. 

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[AnonymBruker]

Ass I've always said: it's not the fart that kills it's the smell.

You should definitely dump him, send him back to the streets.

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