Should I ask him out this time, after 6 months? (We´re still talking.)

[AnonymBruker]

Hello guys!

I´m trying to figure something out here. I have a scenario for you. This is about a man, quite serious, we´re almost in family. He does not drink ect.

- I have been on 5 dates with him. He took the initiative to ask me out all the way. He also called and texted between the dates. Like before going to bed and when he wakes up.

- I´ve known him for 6 months. All the 5 dates were in January. One each week. We tried then to meet up 3 more times in fabruary but he texted me the one time and said he was very sick. That´s fine. But the last two meetups he surprised me when he didn´t follow up. When the day came, he didn´t confirm time and place. And I never asked him "why this behaviour?"

- And then I got busy , he got busy and the weeks flew away. Now we´re in july and he haven´t seen each other for 6 months. But we use to talk daily on snapchat but unfortunately it´s very on the surface, nothing deep. he did show me his sister and father on snapchat before I went on vacation which was nice. He also bought me a gift that´s still at home with him and his mom. (No his family does not know about me yet)

So what do you think? Should I ask him out this time? Or should I wait till he wakes up and looks for me.

I read only friendly replies thank you. 

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[AnonymBruker]

You should ask him out. Your turn, since like March.

(Though: he seems a bit strange. Strange to keep some kind of contact for months and months and do nothing about it)

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[Gjest PaN]

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

Uansett, har det gått 6 måneder så kan du spørre han ut, er jo tross alt gått et halvt år.

[Frida.B]

10 hours ago, PussLe! said:

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

Uansett, har det gått 6 måneder så kan du spørre han ut, er jo tross alt gått et halvt år.

Off topic.

Maybe she doesnt speak norwegian so well, and its easier for her to express herself in english.

Here google oversetter as you wished😁:

 

"Hallo gutta!

Jeg prøver å finne noe ut her. Jeg har et scenario for deg. Dette handler om en mann, ganske alvorlig, vi er nesten i familien. Han drikker ikke ect.

- Jeg har vært på 5 datoer med ham. Han tok initiativ til å spørre meg hele veien. Han ringte og tekstet også mellom datoene. Som før du legger deg og når han våkner.

- Jeg har kjent ham i 6 måneder. Alle 5 datoer var i januar. En hver uke. Vi prøvde da å møte opp tre ganger i fabruary, men han snakket meg en gang og sa at han var veldig syk. Det er greit. Men de to siste møtene overrasket han meg da han ikke fulgte opp. Da dagen kom, bekreftet han ikke tid og sted. Og jeg spurte ham aldri "hvorfor denne oppførselen?"

- Og så ble jeg opptatt, han ble opptatt og ukerne fløy bort. Nå er vi i juli, og han har ikke sett hverandre i 6 måneder. Men vi bruker til å snakke daglig på snapchat, men dessverre er det veldig på overflaten, ingenting dypt. han viste meg sin søster og far på snapchat før jeg gikk på ferie som var hyggelig. Han kjøpte meg også en gave som fortsatt er hjemme hos ham og moren hans. (Nei, hans familie vet ikke om meg ennå)

Så hva tror du? Skal jeg spørre ham ut denne gangen? Eller skal jeg vente til han våkner opp og ser etter meg.

Jeg leser bare vennlige svar takk."

Is this better? 

If one uses google oversetter to translate, you will say afterwards that she/he should learn to write norwegian first, because G.O.doesnt know what its doing.😂

Just see the positive part, this is a chance for you to improve your english.

Ts: By all means,  ask him out, its been 6 months, nothing to lose if you try😊

 

[AnonymBruker]

10 hours ago, PussLe! said:

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

Uansett, har det gått 6 måneder så kan du spørre han ut, er jo tross alt gått et halvt år.

Det er tillatt å skrive på engelsk, svensk eller dansk hvis norsk ikke er morsmålet.

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[Marina234]

10 timer siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

Hello guys!

I´m trying to figure something out here. I have a scenario for you. This is about a man, quite serious, we´re almost in family. He does not drink ect.

- I have been on 5 dates with him. He took the initiative to ask me out all the way. He also called and texted between the dates. Like before going to bed and when he wakes up.

- I´ve known him for 6 months. All the 5 dates were in January. One each week. We tried then to meet up 3 more times in fabruary but he texted me the one time and said he was very sick. That´s fine. But the last two meetups he surprised me when he didn´t follow up. When the day came, he didn´t confirm time and place. And I never asked him "why this behaviour?"

- And then I got busy , he got busy and the weeks flew away. Now we´re in july and he haven´t seen each other for 6 months. But we use to talk daily on snapchat but unfortunately it´s very on the surface, nothing deep. he did show me his sister and father on snapchat before I went on vacation which was nice. He also bought me a gift that´s still at home with him and his mom. (No his family does not know about me yet)

So what do you think? Should I ask him out this time? Or should I wait till he wakes up and looks for me.

I read only friendly replies thank you. 

Anonymkode: c48b8...99a

You should ask him out. Its your turn ❤️ . 

Endret 23. juli 2018 av Marina234

[AnonymBruker]

10 timer siden, PussLe! skrev:

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

Uansett, har det gått 6 måneder så kan du spørre han ut, er jo tross alt gått et halvt år.

surhål! 

Anonymkode: 38e5b...0b8

[Carrot]

10 timer siden, PussLe! skrev:

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

 

Really? Hurra for deg! Konstruktivt svar - du kunne bare gått ut av tråden vet du.. 

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If I where u I´d ask whats the score, like where do u see this going, is this friendship only or are you thinking it can develop ti something else or what? I´d let him know I´m tired of trying to guess whats up with him and need to address this and get the record straight for my own sake. 

[Serafin]

21 timer siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

Hello guys!

I´m trying to figure something out here. I have a scenario for you. This is about a man, quite serious, we´re almost in family. He does not drink ect.

- I have been on 5 dates with him. He took the initiative to ask me out all the way. He also called and texted between the dates. Like before going to bed and when he wakes up.

- I´ve known him for 6 months. All the 5 dates were in January. One each week. We tried then to meet up 3 more times in fabruary but he texted me the one time and said he was very sick. That´s fine. But the last two meetups he surprised me when he didn´t follow up. When the day came, he didn´t confirm time and place. And I never asked him "why this behaviour?"

- And then I got busy , he got busy and the weeks flew away. Now we´re in july and he haven´t seen each other for 6 months. But we use to talk daily on snapchat but unfortunately it´s very on the surface, nothing deep. he did show me his sister and father on snapchat before I went on vacation which was nice. He also bought me a gift that´s still at home with him and his mom. (No his family does not know about me yet)

So what do you think? Should I ask him out this time? Or should I wait till he wakes up and looks for me.

I read only friendly replies thank you. 

Anonymkode: c48b8...99a

Snakk norsk!

[AnonymBruker]

15 hours ago, Serafin said:

Snakk norsk!

Hvorfor går du ikke bare ut av tråden? Det er lov å skrive på engelsk her.

 

I'd ask him out if I were you. That way, you'll at least get an answer instead of constantly wondering what's going on. You'll be able to move on, either with or without him. I don't know if he's stringing you along or if you are, in a sense, both stringing each other along, but six months is a long time and you need to find out.

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[Xcase33]

On 7/23/2018 at 12:49 AM, AnonymBruker said:

Hello guys!

I´m trying to figure something out here. I have a scenario for you. This is about a man, quite serious, we´re almost in family. He does not drink ect.

- I have been on 5 dates with him. He took the initiative to ask me out all the way. He also called and texted between the dates. Like before going to bed and when he wakes up.

- I´ve known him for 6 months. All the 5 dates were in January. One each week. We tried then to meet up 3 more times in fabruary but he texted me the one time and said he was very sick. That´s fine. But the last two meetups he surprised me when he didn´t follow up. When the day came, he didn´t confirm time and place. And I never asked him "why this behaviour?"

- And then I got busy , he got busy and the weeks flew away. Now we´re in july and he haven´t seen each other for 6 months. But we use to talk daily on snapchat but unfortunately it´s very on the surface, nothing deep. he did show me his sister and father on snapchat before I went on vacation which was nice. He also bought me a gift that´s still at home with him and his mom. (No his family does not know about me yet)

So what do you think? Should I ask him out this time? Or should I wait till he wakes up and looks for me.

I read only friendly replies thank you. 

Anonymkode: c48b8...99a

As a man you need to always take the initiativ, since girls will never do it. More than not we can get tired of it ..especially in the long run over many months. Since we know girls have plenty of offers to go on dates, then it kinda get abit pointless.
You need to undestand there are alot more single menn than woman up here in Norway. 

[AnonymBruker]

Bruk norsk!

Ts er bare en bruker som velger å skrive på engelsk for å se hvor mange svar hun får på engelsk. 

Hvorfor skulle en engelskspråkelig (eventuelt et annet språk, men skriver på engelsk) skrive på et norsk forum? Det finnes en hel haug med engelske forum det går ann å skrive på.

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[Serafin]

6 timer siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

Hvorfor går du ikke bare ut av tråden? Det er lov å skrive på engelsk her.

 

I'd ask him out if I were you. That way, you'll at least get an answer instead of constantly wondering what's going on. You'll be able to move on, either with or without him. I don't know if he's stringing you along or if you are, in a sense, both stringing each other along, but six months is a long time and you need to find out.

Anonymkode: d3ba3...ac9

Hvorfor går du ikke bare ut av tråden? Det er lov å skrive norsk her.

[AnonymBruker]

På 23.7.2018 den 1.01, PussLe! skrev:

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

Uansett, har det gått 6 måneder så kan du spørre han ut, er jo tross alt gått et halvt år.

Hvis du forstår hvorfor gidd...

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[AnonymBruker]

You should ask him out  As you said you guys are still talking, but on the surface so you still have a chance.

Maybe he is waiting for you to ask him, maybe he is testing you! Just go for it, the worst thing that can happen is that he says no. ❤️ 

Anonymkode: 9e8cd...8fd

[AnonymBruker]

På 23.7.2018 den 1.01, PussLe! skrev:

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

Uansett, har det gått 6 måneder så kan du spørre han ut, er jo tross alt gått et halvt år.

Det er lov å skrive hvilket språk man vil. Siden du tydeligvis ikke forstår engelsk, så kan jeg se at du blir litt nærtagende av ikke-eksisterende problemer som du bare skaper selv   

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[Gjest PaN]

Akkurat nå, AnonymBruker skrev:

Det er lov å skrive hvilket språk man vil. Siden du tydeligvis ikke forstår engelsk, så kan jeg se at du blir litt nærtagende av ikke-eksisterende problemer som du bare skaper selv   

Anonymkode: 9e8cd...8fd

Kan dere faen meg gi dere med å mase sånn da, herregud da. Jeg har svart på spørsmålet trådstarter spør om så det bør være nok  

[Mallard]

På 23.7.2018 den 0.49, AnonymBruker skrev:

This is about a man, quite serious, we´re almost in family. He does not drink ect.

- I´ve known him for 6 months. All the 5 dates were in January. One each week. We tried then to meet up 3 more times in fabruary but he texted me the one time and said he was very sick. That´s fine. But the last two meetups he surprised me when he didn´t follow up. 

- And then I got busy , he got busy and the weeks flew away. Now we´re in july and he haven´t seen each other for 6 months.

What does «we’re almost in family» mean? Are you two related? If so, how?

You say that the two of you «tried» to meet up three times in February, and not only did the plans fall through every time, but he didn’t even bother telling you he wasn’t coming.

He hasn’t tried to reschedule or set up a new date in the past six months either, so I think it’s safe to say that he’s just not that in to you.

Move on.

 

[Nmtt]

På 23.7.2018 den 1.01, PussLe! skrev:

Norsk forum, norsk språk. Du kan i det minste bruke google oversetter, ikke det at jeg ikke forstår men ærlig talt.

Uansett, har det gått 6 måneder så kan du spørre han ut, er jo tross alt gått et halvt år.

Serviceminded

 

unnskyld, serviceinnstilt 

Endret 24. juli 2018 av Nmtt
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[AnonymBruker]

Gidder ikke å svare på tråden når det er på engelsk! TS kan tydeligvis norsk ettersom hun fant fram hit, da får hun værsegod svare på norsk også!

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