Is this accepted in Norway?

[AnonymBruker]

Hi. I am married and have three kids. My wife and me had a great sex life when we did not have a children. Like many other woman, my wife lost interest or do not have energy to have sex with me anymore. She use all her energy for parenting and she is wonderful mother for our kid. I respect her and thank for her being good mother. But I need her as my sosial and sexual partner well. I love my wife and I want to recover our sex life. We have sex ones a month if I ask her many times. She never asked me having sex from her side. It is always me asking her. My wish is to have sex once a week which haven't happened more than 10 years. I am the person with very strong sexual desire. I masturbate at least twice a week with or without her help with her hand&mouse. I'm very frustrated over our situation and these days I am thinking about having one night stand with stranger without building relationships or feeling involved. I did not do that. Just thinking at the moment. I never had sex with other woman than my wife in my life and I feel guilty by just thinking about sex with other woman or watching porno and masturbating. I almost gave up sexual relationship with my wife but I do not want give up our relationship because she is very kind to me and children. She is very wonderful person and helped me a lot when I needed help. I know that I can not find any other woman better than her in my life. But i do not want to give up my sexual desire either. I talked to my wife about this issue and she tried to have sex with me once or twice but it does not last long, only last one or two weeks and i find again my wife with no sexual interest. Do you think it is possible to have a healthy relationship with my wife while I spend my sexual energy with other stranger?She feel often guilty not having desire/energy to have sex with me because busy parenting and children activity. i do not need to demand sexual relationship from my wife if i get enough sex with others without building relationships with them, and she might feel free from guilty.Can that be solution for us? Is it accepted in Norway to have one night stand in marrage? It is widly accepted in Japan where I came from and it is not even issue. Quite normal that having one night stand with stranger and at the same time keeping marriage without having sexual relationship. I would never think about having one night stand with stranger if I get enough sex in our marrage. I need some true advice. I do not want to hurt my wife or relationship for us and for our children.  And I want to follow Norwegian relationship rule and not Japanese rule since my wife is Norwegian.

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[AnonymBruker]

In Norway men take their part in the household and with the kids so the wife isent so tired. Try clean, make dinner, lunch for the kids and follow the kids to their hobbyes. If the wife is less tired she will also have more energy for sex. Marriages ends if the man dont help out over time.

No, sex on the outside of the marriage is not accepted. In Norway people end their marriage because of it. 

And if you are talking about the lack of sex often its a giant turn-off. 

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[Djungelvrål]

Få gidder å lese så liten skrift og når det i tillegg er på engelsk blir det håpløst. 

[Chizue]

You have to talk to your wife, if she would be interested in an "Open relationship".

But, it is also normal for Norwegian men to take some part in the household, watching kids, clean, dinner, etc..
It gives your wife time to have a nap, get energy and focus on other parts of your relationship =)

Marriages doesn't normally end, just because the man isn't helping out..
They end because of; Cheating, or loosing interest in each other.


And...It is also very healthy to take time off, get a babysitter and have a romantic dinner out.Or a weekend just the two of you, even if she ends up sleeping 24/7

[AnonymBruker]

Og få gidder å lese om marrige i 2017...

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[AnonymBruker]

Thanks for answers. It helps me understand Norwegian view of the relationship. I forgot to write that none of our children is baby longer. They are all in elementary school. And I have no problem with reading Norwegian, only problem with writing that is why I posted in English. I will be very thankful for Norwegian answer too😊

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[WubWub]

En relasjon uten sex er ikke et kjæresteforhold men et vennskapsforhold. 

Du kan høre med henne hva hun tenker om et "åpent forhold" - om hun ikke liker tanken ville jeg foreslått parterapi. 

https://www.dagbladet.no/tema/her-er-tegnene-pa-at-dere-trenger-parterapi/62988649

Her er tegnene på at dere trenger parterapi:

 

Søyland har satt opp en liste med det hun mener er faresignaler:

• Lite nærhet eller sextørke i forholdet, som har vart lenger enn 2 måneder

 

Endret 26. september 2017 av WubWub

[AnonymBruker]

1 time siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

 

Hi. I am married and have three kids. My wife and me had a great sex life when we did not have a children. Like many other woman, my wife lost interest or do not have energy to have sex with me anymore. She use all her energy for parenting and she is wonderful mother for our kid. I respect her and thank for her being good mother. But I need her as my sosial and sexual partner well. I love my wife and I want to recover our sex life. We have sex ones a month if I ask her many times. She never asked me having sex from her side. It is always me asking her. My wish is to have sex once a week which haven't happened more than 10 years. I am the person with very strong sexual desire. I masturbate at least twice a week with or without her help with her hand&mouse. I'm very frustrated over our situation and these days I am thinking about having one night stand with stranger without building relationships or feeling involved. I did not do that. Just thinking at the moment. I never had sex with other woman than my wife in my life and I feel guilty by just thinking about sex with other woman or watching porno and masturbating. I almost gave up sexual relationship with my wife but I do not want give up our relationship because she is very kind to me and children. She is very wonderful person and helped me a lot when I needed help. I know that I can not find any other woman better than her in my life. But i do not want to give up my sexual desire either. I talked to my wife about this issue and she tried to have sex with me once or twice but it does not last long, only last one or two weeks and i find again my wife with no sexual interest. Do you think it is possible to have a healthy relationship with my wife while I spend my sexual energy with other stranger?She feel often guilty not having desire/energy to have sex with me because busy parenting and children activity. i do not need to demand sexual relationship from my wife if i get enough sex with others without building relationships with them, and she might feel free from guilty.Can that be solution for us? Is it accepted in Norway to have one night stand in marrage? It is widly accepted in Japan where I came from and it is not even issue. Quite normal that having one night stand with stranger and at the same time keeping marriage without having sexual relationship. I would never think about having one night stand with stranger if I get enough sex in our marrage. I need some true advice. I do not want to hurt my wife or relationship for us and for our children.  And I want to follow Norwegian relationship rule and not Japanese rule since my wife is Norwegian.

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Er du en optiker som prøver å teste synet vårt? Er det nå vi skal skrive litt om hvor mye vi greide å lese av teksten fra en gitt avstand? Selv har jeg skjev hornhinne på venstre øye.

mvh

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[AnonymBruker]

3 hours ago, AnonymBruker said:

 

Hi. I am married and have three kids. My wife and me had a great sex life when we did not have a children. Like many other woman, my wife lost interest or do not have energy to have sex with me anymore. She use all her energy for parenting and she is wonderful mother for our kid. I respect her and thank for her being good mother. But I need her as my sosial and sexual partner well. I love my wife and I want to recover our sex life. We have sex ones a month if I ask her many times. She never asked me having sex from her side. It is always me asking her. My wish is to have sex once a week which haven't happened more than 10 years. I am the person with very strong sexual desire. I masturbate at least twice a week with or without her help with her hand&mouse. I'm very frustrated over our situation and these days I am thinking about having one night stand with stranger without building relationships or feeling involved. I did not do that. Just thinking at the moment. I never had sex with other woman than my wife in my life and I feel guilty by just thinking about sex with other woman or watching porno and masturbating. I almost gave up sexual relationship with my wife but I do not want give up our relationship because she is very kind to me and children. She is very wonderful person and helped me a lot when I needed help. I know that I can not find any other woman better than her in my life. But i do not want to give up my sexual desire either. I talked to my wife about this issue and she tried to have sex with me once or twice but it does not last long, only last one or two weeks and i find again my wife with no sexual interest. Do you think it is possible to have a healthy relationship with my wife while I spend my sexual energy with other stranger?She feel often guilty not having desire/energy to have sex with me because busy parenting and children activity. i do not need to demand sexual relationship from my wife if i get enough sex with others without building relationships with them, and she might feel free from guilty.Can that be solution for us? Is it accepted in Norway to have one night stand in marrage? It is widly accepted in Japan where I came from and it is not even issue. Quite normal that having one night stand with stranger and at the same time keeping marriage without having sexual relationship. I would never think about having one night stand with stranger if I get enough sex in our marrage. I need some true advice. I do not want to hurt my wife or relationship for us and for our children.  And I want to follow Norwegian relationship rule and not Japanese rule since my wife is Norwegian.

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Det du spør om er ikke vanlig i Norge, men noen par har åpne forhold. Skjønner problemet ditt.
Det hadde kanskje vært nyttig og vite hvorfor din kone ikke vil ha sex. Er hun bare uinteressert i sex, har hun sluttet å tenne på deg spesielt, eller har hun kanskje lite overskudd til å ha sex? Jeg skjønner også om dette er vanskelig å snakke om både for henne og deg.

(Dere som sliter med å lese kan dere ikke forstørre teksten? Ups der gjorde jeg det for dere gitt  )

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[Gjest Rødstrømpe]

8 timer siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

Thanks for answers. It helps me understand Norwegian view of the relationship. I forgot to write that none of our children is baby longer. They are all in elementary school. And I have no problem with reading Norwegian, only problem with writing that is why I posted in English. I will be very thankful for Norwegian answer too😊

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For å snu spørsmålet; hvordan bidrar du hjemme med barn og huslige oppgaver/hverdagen til barna?

Du sier at HUN er opptatt- ikke dere. Det gir meg et inntrykk av at hun tar hovedbyrden.

Om dere ikke deler likt kan du heller ikke forvente at hun har overskudd til å få lyst på sex. 

Og nei, de færreste moderne kulturer driver med åpne forhold.

Jeg er ganske åpen av meg, men jeg hadde KLIKKET om jeg fungerte som husmor og sjef i Familien AS, og mannen foreslo å få seg elskerinne. Om noen skal ha rekreasjonssex og en heit elsker så er det den som må fungere som primus motor hjemme med ansvar for alle oppgaver og sliter seg ut i hverdagen med det som også burde være partnerens oppgave.

[Frida.B]

9 minutter siden, Rødstrømpe skrev:

For å snu spørsmålet; hvordan bidrar du hjemme med barn og huslige oppgaver/hverdagen til barna?

Du sier at HUN er opptatt- ikke dere. Det gir meg et inntrykk av at hun tar hovedbyrden.

Om dere ikke deler likt kan du heller ikke forvente at hun har overskudd til å få lyst på sex. 

Og nei, de færreste moderne kulturer driver med åpne forhold.

Jeg er ganske åpen av meg, men jeg hadde KLIKKET om jeg fungerte som husmor og sjef i Familien AS, og mannen foreslo å få seg elskerinne. Om noen skal ha rekreasjonssex og en heit elsker så er det den som må fungere som primus motor hjemme med ansvar for alle oppgaver og sliter seg ut i hverdagen med det som også burde være partnerens oppgave.

Yesss!!!!Takk 

[Frida.B]

What importance does it have if it is or it isnt accepted in Norway?

Wrong question to ask.

The right question to ask it supposed to be: Is this( me wanting to sleep around like a MAN that i am in need, and of course thats not my fault that my wife s sexual needs have disminished, because she works her ass out with the kids and house and all, and sure she s tired and even if she s tired, she still tries to please me...but hei, i say this again, i am a MAN, so i have big big needs, important ones, and even if i m so selfish and thinking just about myself, i do love her :-)))

So the right question was supposed to be adressed to your wife:

- Is it something that you would accept my dear, lovely wife?

[AnonymBruker]

Husk at et åpent forhold tilsier at BEGGE parter kan ha sex med andre. Selv om din kone ikke tenner på deg lengre så betyr det ikke at hun ikke kan tenne på andre menn. Syns du det er greit om hun har sex med andre enn deg?

Du skriver ikke om dere begge jobber eller om hun er hjemmeværende. Men jeg er rimelig sikker her at om du tar ansvar for å avlaste henne med barna og husarbeid så vil hun får tilbake overskudd, og dere vil få frigjort tid til å gjøre hyggelige ting sammen. Omtenksomhet og romantisk oppmerksomhet tenner kvinner. Mannfolk som maser på sex er avtennende. Hvor ofte lager du en romantisk middag til henne? Eller tar henne med på helgetur uten barna? Varter henne opp?

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[AnonymBruker]

Dear person from abroad:

Call 0047 and they will help you out.

best regards from

Norway

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[XaoS]

In theory this suggestion sounds like a good solution to unbalanced sexual desires. But in reality infidelity always gets messy and complicated, even when it's "consensual". Try working on your relationship to your wife, look into suggestions on how she can get back some of her sexual energy. 

If having an affair is accepted or not, is not really the point. It will for sure make life complicated for you, your wife and the mistress/one night stand.

[Hactar]

10 timer siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

She feel often guilty not having desire/energy to have sex with me because busy parenting and children activity

Jeg ville begynt her, hvis jeg var deg. Overta oppgaver så hun ikke er så travel. Da får du brukt litt energi, og hun får sjansen til å få ekstra energi.

De fleste vil reagere negativt på forespørsel om åpent forhold som første løsningsforslag.

[AnonymBruker]

If she has stopped yelled "Iku Iku!" when having sex then you know you have a problem

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[MinnieM]

14 timer siden, AnonymBruker skrev:

 

Hi. I am married and have three kids. My wife and me had a great sex life when we did not have a children. Like many other woman, my wife lost interest or do not have energy to have sex with me anymore. She use all her energy for parenting and she is wonderful mother for our kid. I respect her and thank for her being good mother. But I need her as my sosial and sexual partner well. I love my wife and I want to recover our sex life. We have sex ones a month if I ask her many times. She never asked me having sex from her side. It is always me asking her. My wish is to have sex once a week which haven't happened more than 10 years. I am the person with very strong sexual desire. I masturbate at least twice a week with or without her help with her hand&mouse. I'm very frustrated over our situation and these days I am thinking about having one night stand with stranger without building relationships or feeling involved. I did not do that. Just thinking at the moment. I never had sex with other woman than my wife in my life and I feel guilty by just thinking about sex with other woman or watching porno and masturbating. I almost gave up sexual relationship with my wife but I do not want give up our relationship because she is very kind to me and children. She is very wonderful person and helped me a lot when I needed help. I know that I can not find any other woman better than her in my life. But i do not want to give up my sexual desire either. I talked to my wife about this issue and she tried to have sex with me once or twice but it does not last long, only last one or two weeks and i find again my wife with no sexual interest. Do you think it is possible to have a healthy relationship with my wife while I spend my sexual energy with other stranger?She feel often guilty not having desire/energy to have sex with me because busy parenting and children activity. i do not need to demand sexual relationship from my wife if i get enough sex with others without building relationships with them, and she might feel free from guilty.Can that be solution for us? Is it accepted in Norway to have one night stand in marrage? It is widly accepted in Japan where I came from and it is not even issue. Quite normal that having one night stand with stranger and at the same time keeping marriage without having sexual relationship. I would never think about having one night stand with stranger if I get enough sex in our marrage. I need some true advice. I do not want to hurt my wife or relationship for us and for our children.  And I want to follow Norwegian relationship rule and not Japanese rule since my wife is Norwegian.

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Bruk denne skriftstørrelsen 

[Gjest making.a.mess]

14 timer siden, Mystix skrev:

Få gidder å lese så liten skrift og når det i tillegg er på engelsk blir det håpløst. 

Briller? 

[Gjest making.a.mess]

To help her out eith the kids and the house can be helpful. Sometimes you can buy her roses and make her a romantic dinner. 

If you've tryed this for a few months with no resoult maybe you can suggest her to try some herbs that is helpfull for the lack of sexual interest. I dont remember the name of these herbs, but i tryed i once and it was very effectful. 

To get sex elsewere would be the end for your family. Somehow she will find out and then she'll leave you.