En mann som elsker damer

[Stiigen]

Hva tenker dere om denne passasjen fra en av mine favorittbøker; "Alabaster girl" av Zan Perrion :

 

“A man who loves women is loved by women.” – Zan Perrion

“There is remarkable truth and clarity to loving women, and celebrating the fact that you do. Women are not creatures to be conquered, they are treasures to be cherished and celebrated.” – Zan Perrion

Look at all the women who enter into your life as a surprise gift. A surprise gift, especially for you. “For me?” Yes, for you! Women are wonderful, they are a “beauty that needs a witness,” and whenever you allow yourself to become that witness, she will open up to you in fantastic ways.

You may be wondering: “How can I celebrate a woman I just met or a woman I am about to approach? How could I possibly celebrate a woman I do not know anything about yet, a woman that has just entered my life?”

If you are asking yourself that question, realize that the celebration of a woman does not require ‘knowing’ her. Do you need to know what’s inside a surprise gift to be all happy about it? Celebrating her does not require knowing her; it needs empathy. Empathy for her, her female energy, her being… celebrating her only requires your empathy and your decision to celebrate this luminous creature in front of you.

Remember this: talk to women in the context of all women. “I love women …and look at you.”

Celebrate womanhood. Celebrate the spirit of women in her – you love women and she’s a great example of that. Women know your intentions and if they are in the presence of a real man who truly loves women, and that man is celebrating her, then she must be a real woman! (A practical thing that illustrates this is to always celebrate your ex-girlfriends when asked what she was like by your new girlfriend).

Celebrating the divine feminine in her, from beginning to end, no stages, no escalation… celebrate her every time you see her – just like it is the first time all over again.

Now, if it is true that a man who loves women is loved by women, then why is the ‘nice guy’ so unsuccessful with women? Because the nice guy’s love for and celebration of women is not unconditional. The nice guy has hidden intentions behind his niceness. The nice guy “loves” and “celebrates”, but in reality, he is hoping he will get something from her, hoping to take something from her.

The nice guy’s hidden agenda is taking, while the intentions of a real man are all about generosity and sharing. A real man gives her the gift of curiosity, of listening, of invitation… and of celebration.

A man who knows where he is going and what he desires in life can allow himself to be a slave to women. He allows himself to be himself and has gained the freedom to be helpless to his desire for women. He’s free to portray desire without being needy (the opposite of what pick-up artists teach), and as a result, he finds himself being invaluable and intoxicating to her.

Endret 8. desember 2020 av Stiigen

[AnonymBruker]

Tenker at det er mye i dette. Også motsatt vei, når det gjelder kvinner. Det er et dårlig utgangspunkt å tenke at alle menn er drittsekker.😉 Og det er ingen tvil om at de som virkelig elsker både seg selv og mennesker rundt seg  er mest attraktive.

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